Gifts for Ushers, Readers and Everyone Just Outside the Wedding Party
Junior groomsmen and ring bearers get a smaller piece that matches the groomsmen's gifts – a personalized leather keychain at $21.90 or a leather luggage tag for his backpack at $29.99, in the same leather with the same kind of stamp – and ushers and readers outside the wedding party get a thank-you at about half the groomsman budget, most often that same $21.90 keychain with their initials.
Every piece is made to order and sold direct from our own store, with the name or initials included in the price and free US shipping. A wedding-party order usually takes a week or two from start to finish; put the wedding date in the deadline field on the order form and we plan around it. Keychains get cheaper together: two for $39.90, five for $79.90 and $12.50 each from six, so the junior groomsman and the ring bearer can go in one order with the ushers. The groomsmen's own gifts, with their group prices, are on our groomsmen gifts page.
Junior groomsmen gifts that match the groomsmen's
A junior groomsman stands in the line with the men, so his gift should look like it came from the same order. Match it two ways: the same leather color as the groomsmen's gifts, and the same kind of stamp – his initials if they got initials, his first name if they got names. The rectangle keychain takes initials and the long loop takes a name, stamped on one side.
The keychain is the whole gift for a boy under 21. Every groomsman flask already comes with a matching leather keychain, so a $21.90 keychain in the flask's leather with his initials puts him in the set with nothing alcohol-related in his hands. Wallets and money clips land better a few years later, when he has something to put in them.
| The groomsmen got | Junior groomsman gets | Ring bearer gets |
|---|---|---|
| Groomsmen flask set, $34.50 a flask (3 to 10) | Keychain in the flasks' leather, $21.90 | Luggage tag for his backpack, $29.99 |
| Leather dopp kit, from $54.50, $10 off each from 6 | Luggage tag in the same leather, $29.99 | Luggage tag in the same leather, $29.99 |
| Leather keychains, $12.50 each from 6 | One more keychain in the same order, $12.50 | One more keychain, or a luggage tag at $29.99 |
| Bifold wallet, $59, $49 each from 5 | Keychain in the wallets' leather, $21.90 | Luggage tag for his backpack, $29.99 |
Ring bearer gifts: a luggage tag for his backpack
A ring bearer is usually somewhere between four and eight, too young for keys and old enough to be proud of something with his name on it. A personalized leather luggage tag on his school backpack gets used every day, and his first name on it helps a lost bag find its way back. At $29.99 in the groomsmen's leather, it belongs to the same set as their gifts. If the groomsmen are getting dopp kits, each kit already comes with a free leather luggage tag, so the ring bearer's tag sits naturally beside theirs.
Brothers as ring bearer and junior groomsman are common. Two luggage tags come to $49.99, or one tag and one keychain to $51.89.
Personalized usher gifts: how much less than a groomsman gift
Half is the number worth working from. It is far enough below the attendant tier that nobody confuses the two, and high enough that the gift is clearly a real object. If your groomsmen received a $39.50 flask, an usher gift at $21.90 to $29.99 lands correctly.
Ushers sit just outside the wedding party, so give them a different object at the lower price. The identical flask the groomsmen got, handed to an usher when everyone can see who stood where, reads as a demotion in gift form. A different, smaller piece reads as a thank-you for a job done. This is the one etiquette point nobody writes down and everybody feels.
| Role | What lands | Price | Why |
|---|---|---|---|
| Usher | Personalized leather keychain | $21.90 | Carried daily, clearly its own tier |
| Reader | Leather coaster | $19.50 single | A desk object for someone who gave you words |
| Guest book attendant | Personalized leather keychain | $21.90 | Short job, real thank-you |
| Ceremony musician or sound | Personalized leather luggage tag | $29.99 | They travel with kit |
| Cousin cut from the party | Personalized money clip | $45 | A step up repairs a small wound |
The teenage usher
A fourteen-year-old cousin in a rented jacket is the most commonly mishandled person on this list. A wallet goes in a drawer at that age, because he has nothing to put in it. A monogrammed keychain works immediately: a teenager either has a house key or is about six months from having car keys, and his initials pressed into leather feel like being treated as an adult.
Order his in a color that is obviously his own. Black and Dark Espresso photograph like the grown men's gifts; Forest Green or Blueberry give a younger usher something that is visibly his and no hand-me-down version of what his uncle got.
Reader thank-you gifts, and people who gave you words
Somebody read a poem at your ceremony. Somebody else wrote the ceremony script, or ran the sound so that everyone could hear it. These are not attendants, and what they did took preparation. A leather coaster at $19.50, pressed with a floral-framed initial, sits on the desk where they will next write something. A set of four at $44 covers a couple who both helped.
For the friend who read at a destination wedding, give the $29.99 luggage tag in place of the coaster, because they carried a bag to get to you. Our guide to luggage tags as destination wedding favors covers the color and stamp choices for a group order.
The cousin who got cut
Wedding party numbers shrink when the venue does. The person who was told in March that the party was going to be four each, and then ushered anyway, is carrying something a keychain does not quite settle. The personalized money clip at $45 in Black, Caramel, Indian Summer or Blueberry sits just below the attendant tier and reads as deliberate, and the metal clip can be engraved with the wedding date at no cost. Say something out loud when you hand it over. The object is doing half the work at most.
Ordering the whole outer ring with the groomsmen
Most couples end up with four to six people in this tier, plus the junior groomsman and ring bearer. Four keychains come to $67.90 as a Family Plus set and six come to $75.00, personalization included, so the outer ring costs less than two groomsman flasks. Order them in the same leather color as the attendant gifts if you want the rehearsal-dinner table to look like one order, or in a second color if you want the tiers to read clearly. Both work; the mistake is doing it by accident.
Give everything at the rehearsal dinner, where the junior groomsman and ring bearer receive theirs alongside the men. If you are still deciding what the attendants themselves get, the groomsmen gift guide sets the top tier, and the proposal box guide covers the asking stage. The full wedding collection shows every price band in one place.
FAQ
What is a good junior groomsman gift that matches the groomsmen's?
A personalized leather keychain at $21.90 in the same leather as the groomsmen's gifts, with his initials if they got initials or his first name if they got names. It matches the set and suits a boy who has a house key or soon will, with nothing alcohol-related in a minor's gift.
What should the ring bearer get?
A personalized leather luggage tag for his backpack, $29.99, in the groomsmen's leather with his first name. If the groomsmen are getting dopp kits, each kit already comes with a free leather luggage tag, so his tag sits beside theirs.
Do ushers get a gift at a wedding?
Yes, when they did a real job on the day. An usher who seated a hundred guests worked harder than a groomsman who stood still for twenty minutes. A $21.90 monogrammed leather keychain is the standard, given at the rehearsal dinner along with everyone else's.
Should ushers get the same gift as the groomsmen?
No. Give a different object at about half the price. An identical gift in a lower price band is obvious to everyone in the room, and a different object at a lower price reads as a thank-you for a different job.
What do you give the friend who read at your ceremony?
Something for a desk. A $19.50 leather coaster pressed with their initial works, and a set of four at $44 covers a couple who both took part. Add a note that quotes the line they read.
